Happy New Year! Bring on 2015!

So one of my goals this year is to be more active on my blog.  I often think of things to write during the day, then when I get home and the chaos of kids hits and I hit writer’s block.  Doesn’t make for a successful blog let me tell ya!

Another thing I’m hoping to help change this year is the way fellow moms think.  Just recently I had a mom tell me that I was selfish of all things for spending so much time exercising and worrying about my health versus spending it with my family and taking care of my kids.  HELLO?!??!  How else is mom suppose to remain healthy?  Exercising is NOT being selfish especially as a mom.  I feel kids learn by their parents setting an example and how is it when mom is eating crap and not taking care of herself a good example for her children.  Here she is worrying about whether they eat their veggies and what not and then she “don’t have time” to do that for herself?  I call bullshit!   Excuse my language, but this is something I am very passionate about.

I’m pretty sure kids will grow up just fine and not to mention learn some independence in the process, if mom isn’t focused on them 100% of the time.  If kids get 100% of your time and effort, think of it as them learning to be selfish.  It is alright if you take 30-60 minutes of your day to focus on YOUR health.   Exercising is NOT about “being skinny” or “looking good.”  It’s about being HEALTHY and planting those seeds in your children so that they learn the value of making good decisions.

Not only will mom’s health improve from daily exercise, but so will her stress levels, her self esteem and her overall life/marriage.  As my friend says “happy mommas, make happier families!”  RIGHT ON!

In another recent conversation with a fellow mom who was worried about her health, however did not want to lose anytime with her babies.  What about when your health is suffering and you can’t truly enjoy your time with your kids 100% because you are in pain or discomfort or just uncomfortable in general?  How is that any better?  How is it any better that you spent ALL your time focused on your family and kids and then you are disabled or even worse gone at a young age because you didn’t spend the time to focus on you either?  Your kids and family NEED you even after they are grown.  Trust me, I know this from a fact.  Losing my dad at the age of 19 was devastating.  Granted it has been what makes me so passionate about health and wellness, but it also lead to many tears over the years of the things that I was deprived of.  Having my dad walk me down the aisle.  The support from him going through a divorce.  Knowing that my dad had met my husband.  The list goes on and on and I’m sure it’s not over with.

Take the time to work on your health. Please!  I beg all of you mom and even dads out there. It doesn’t have to be much.  Thirty minutes daily is all that is really required.  That is a fraction of your day.  Show your kids what it truly means to be healthy and lead by example.

Plant those seeds and stop thinking/feeling like your being selfish by focusing on your health this year.  Your whole families health depends on it.

Life of a Working Mom and Back to School

Oh boy…this has been one of THOSE weeks for sure!  Thankfully it’s the last week before school starts.  Not that I don’t like my kids hoe from school (less stringent with bedtimes), but a nice set schedule will be nice.   This week for work has been fairy busy and of course I’m slowing getting over the “crud” that I had still.  The congestion has went away but the cough is still there and my lungs don’t feel 100% again yet.   Not to mention the feeling of fatigue and occasional feeling of shortness of breath.  I will be glad once I feel 100% again for sure!

So many parents sent their kids back to school this week.  I truly enjoyed seeing all the return to school photos on Facebook.  We haven’t gotten there quite yet.   My 8-year-old returns to school on Thursday, August 21st.  I can’t believe she will be in 3rd grade this year!  It completely baffles me!  Where did the time go?!?

sofie 1st day

 

First day of Pre-K3

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I’m just amazed at my bright, sweet little girl and all the joy that she has brought to my life, but now she is getting so big!  The things that come out of her mouth are so funny and sometimes off the wall.  She never fails to keep us on our toes that’s for sure!

So as we go into the final few days before school starts, I am preparing schedules and meals, workout schedules, getting the house in order from the summer chaos and trying to get everything back in order.  Although right now after a full day of work the thought makes me want to yawn.  Can’t I just go lay down on the couch and nap?   Even just 30 minutes?

No I tell myself!  Finish this blog post and get up and get into the kitchen to start dinner before everyone is starving to death.  We did rearrange the schedule some this school year to accommodate my new Fit Club that I have going on every Tuesday night.   So starting in September Sofie will now start going to gymnastics on Monday nights instead of Tuesdays to make it where we only have one activity going on in a days time.  Only a few more weeks to get through of Tuesday’s being packed.  Also I’m going to continue getting up early to get my runs in early in the day and then program workout in the evening in which I’m going to be restarting PiYo since being sick I missed so many of the workouts.

Did your kids return back to school this week?  What grades?   What things do you do to make your schedule easier during the school year?

Now there was a thought!

Well I meant to blog today and I had it all written out….in my head that is. I came home from work and life happened and my “soft copy” got lost in the commotion. But you know what? I had a wonderful evening spending it with my family! I now type this up on my iPad as I lay in bed waiting for my husband to get out of the shower.

As moms, we often get down on ourselves for not completing everything on our “to do list.” I vote that we get rid of this thinking! I don’t feel bad about not doing something to spend time with my family. Now if it’s exercising, I will make sure it’s fit in somewhere, but little things like this…NOPE.

Night all!

Motherhood, wifedom and getting your $h*t done

So one thing I always hear or get asked is “You are Super Mom!” or “How do you manage to find time to get everything done in a day?”

You want to know the real answer?  I DON’T! HA!  Were you expecting some miracle deal that I had?  Nope!  I don’t have a maid, even though I would entertain the thought of one, however the idea of paying for someone to clean up my house when I am perfectly able to seems a bit ridiculous in my mind.

Honestly, I don’t know about other moms out there but there are some days it feels easier than others to get everything in.  I always feel like I need more time in my day though.  That is a constant in my life that and coffee! Between spending time with my kids and husband, getting daily stuff done around the house, work, and exercising.  Some days aren’t long enough.  You know what?  That’s okay!  So what that my livingroom looks like a toy store blew up in it.  I DO have kids and one being a toddler after all, I can’t expect an immaculate house.  I would LOVE the thought of it, but I will have time for that when my kids are grown!   Do I feel guilty?  NOPE!  I prioritize my agenda daily.  So don’t for once think that I’m “Super Mom” and get all this in daily.  HECK NO!  My kids and husband come first, work and my health.  I may or may not get all my chores done around the house during the week, but we stay afloat.  Both of my kids help with dishes nightly, yes even the toddler.  He is at that wonderful age where all he wants to do is help, so I let him!  Yes, there might be “uh oh” moments along the way, but who cares.  He is learning!  So what that it takes me twice as long to do laundry because he wants to help carry the clothes, load them, put them in the basket and push the basket to the chair I sit in when I fold clothes.  But THAT’S OKAY!  I loathe laundry!  He makes it fun for me.  Plus I’m getting help with it so I won’t complain!  2014-01-18 18.30.35

I have a wonderful, loving husband that fully supports my running addiction. He may say I’m crazy from time to time, but he “gets it” as I “get” his storm chasing hobby.   (Which is quite interesting I might add!)  He has gotten really good in the kitchen too and will often help me out and get dinner going, even when I’m at home cooking myself.  Nothing is sexier than seeing a man in the kitchen right?!?!  🙂

So when you think you are failing, think twice.  Look around at all the stuff you DID do today and not what you have left to do.  Family comes FIRST, however your health and wellness should be just as important.  Without “mom” in the house, what would they do?  Prioritize your daily “To Do’s” and make a To Do list if you must.  Some days I need a list, some days I’m just on autopilot and know what I need to do.  Schedules are a must for me though on some things.  Menu planning, exercise, extracurricular activities and work.  My daughter participates in TWO, yes ONLY TWO activities.  Gymnastics and Girl Scouts.  I will not let her have something scheduled daily.  She often gets frustrated with it after a while and just wants a day off as well to play with her friends.  I see some parents that have their children doing something daily.  Not in this house!  She has to have time to get daily chores, homework, reading done without feeling rushed.  Plus I don’t want that feeling of feeling rushed through life.  Take it easy, enjoy it.  It goes WAY TOO FAST and your kids are grown right before your very eyes.

Rule of thumb, DON’T get down on yourself for not accomplishing everything daily.  However I feel like mom’s should make their health and wellness a priority too.

End of story.  Period.

QOTD:  What things do you do to make your daily tasks easier?

Mommy Duties

Oh gosh, I swear I need more hours in my days!  I came home with all intentions of working out and yet it felt so nice to sit in peace and quiet and doing absolutely NOTHING!  I can hear myself think, no chores calling my name, (well there are but I’ve tuned their volume down), no kids yelling, screaming, shrieking, crying, asking for a snack or that they want to go here or there.  Not even a husband!  *gasp*  Now I love my family, don’t get me wrong.  But having ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do is RARE for me!  I am always on the go, working, housework, exercising, Sofie’s extracurricular activities.  ALWAYS something!  So I thought it was awesome that I had an hour to myself, to enjoy my peace and quiet and get my thoughts out.  To flip through my latest Runner’s World Magazine on my iPad and enjoy my protein bar.  Even if I take a day off of work, I spend getting housework done or running errands.

However with that being said, I’m sure I will feel guilty later for having done so and will be kicking myself in the rear for not taking advantage of a free moment and getting some stuff done, but that’s okay!  I’m going to sit here and enjoy my 8 more minutes of quiet before I have to run and get the kids!

 

TheBusyMom